The American philosophical theologian Nicholas Wolterstorff, who also wrote for the New York Times many times, had a period where he lost his adult son — I think in a rock climbing accident. And as he's, you know, crushed by this reality, he has all the philosophical answers. This is one of the greatest American philosophers in a while. And yet he decided to write a book about his emotional experience. He called it Lament for a Son. And in that book, every page is just a day in his life where he laments and he expresses his sadness about the loss that he's going through.
And he has a wonderful line in there, and he says, "Grief is the existential testimony to the value of the one loved." He's saying grief is the thing that bestows value. It speaks —